I’m back from a couple of weeks away, and mostly recovered from a mild but annoying virus, so I’ll be posting once again. To get things started, here are some comments I posted on Dawn Eden’s weblog on why I think there’s a problem with contraception.
As I see it now (my view hasn’t always been the same), contraception changes the nature of sex quite fundamentally by turning it into a free-floating means of pleasure and expression rather than something with definite functions and implications that can be relied on because they are obviously basic to human life and so trump subjective feelings. If sex is free-floating, so each of us must define its meaning for himself, then it’s hard to see how it can ground an enduring connection you can build on. People feel it must matter, but what it means remains unclear and in any event is always subject to reinterpretation and change. Nonetheless, sex continues to play a fundamental role in human relations and psychology, and it creates dependences and vulnerabilities that no longer have any definite status. It seems that such a state of affairs will mean—has meant—a bunch of bad things that range from distrust and instability to manipulation and abuse. Why is that a step forward?